Although some of my nerves were spared during surgery (I had made clear that all could be removed if they needed to be - so I had already accepted that normal sex might come to an end after the prostatectomy), erections have understandably not recovered to former extent and duration. Viagra has not, in my case, been of much use. Orgasms are of course now dry for me as well. My wife and I have though found other ways of attaining sexual fulfilment together. I will leave that to your imagination - suffice to say, an open mind and a source of electricity help! I fully acknowledge that my acceptance of this situation was made easier, given my stage of life.
The effect on my sex life already mentioned was the most impactful. It should be borne in mind that my condition had already had an adverse effect on my sex life. Furthermore - for me at least- the extended lease of life the prostatectomy has given me greatly outweighs this downside. This is especially the case, given that the post-op biopsy showed the cancer was not confined to the organ as per original diagnosis - it had spread into the surrounding tissue but fortunately not into the lymph system.
Yes
At initial diagnosis, when a range of options were given to me, radical prostatectomy seemed to be a step too far. Good guidance led to the conclusion that it was the right thing to do in the circumstances and everything that’s happened since has vindicated this. I am immensely grateful to everyone involved in my treatment throughout this process - all the more, given that my operation took place in February ‘21 when COVID 19 was still making things difficult for the NHS.
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