Ray's Story
 
 
After my radical prostatectomy in 2015 my ability to have an erection was completely lost. This ended my sex life. This caused me severe psychological problems including suicidal thoughts. Consequently I was prescribed anti depressants which have helped but have left me unemotional. Before embarking on this form of treatment I would advise anybody to consider seriously if they can live their life without a normal sex life. I would also advise them to discuss the potential end of their sex live with their partner as it will have grave consequences for their relationship.
A radical prostatectomy is a long operation. It took me several months to get over the anaesthetic and start to feel normal
I sort help from my GP and consultant regarding these problems. I was offered antidepressants and counselling. These helped a bit but did not deal with the problems. I could not find any other support for dealing with these issues. Its not an issue men talk about. I suppose you just have to come to terms with your new self.
The treatment got rid of my cancer which is great. The treatment did end my sex life which has caused me deep ongoing psychological and relationship issues. I am not the man I was. I have nobody to talk to about it and I feel profoundly alone.
Yes
Overall, at the time I believe I made the right decision for my partner my family and myself
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