If you can avoid removing the Prostate it will certainly give you a better life, I am left with Incontinence both ways, due to a nerve being severed, I cannot get an erection & have not had Penertration Sex since 2015.. Talk to your partner about what treatment you would like to pursue..
When having my Prostate removed they also found that I had tumour in my large intestine which they removed at the same time, It left me in a hell of a state, my emotions were then & still now 9 years later hard to control... My advice to you is if you are deciding to have the Prostate removed, ask all the questions about support afterwards....
At home I am left having to pee with a funnel... It has left me incontinent both back & front... When we go out I always have to sit down to pee, as I won't carry a funnel, this leaves me with a 30% chance of messing myself.... I am on lifetime Pads (3 per Day minimum).... I cannot do pelvic exercises due to Fibromyalgia, very bad muscular problems... I have no chance of having Penetrating Sex which does effect my relationship with me Wife... I am constantly peeing or leaking, which sometimes changing the bedding in the middle of the night... It has left my life in tatters, my self confidence has been slashed to ribbons.... I have been diagnosed with PTSD, which stems from my Army days, so I am on strong tablets to control my emotions.... I don't have any support anymore, except from the Incontinence Department once a year to check if I need to increase my Pads... Other than that I am fine...
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If I knew then what I know today I would have never allowed myself this treatment... Although it did save my Life for which I am greatfull, but I did have other choices which I should have taken or at least researched I just jumped in the Removal option....
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